You’re ready for some juicy details, aren’t you? I know you are.
Do you have a pen and paper ready? You’re gonna want to take notes.
Well, the truth is that these secrets are not flashy. They aren’t something you can buy, and they don’t necessarily happen easily. But they are the most important factors to the success of my journey. So you need to hear them. And I’m hoping you’ll absorb and put them to use.
1. Lose your guilt.
I have experienced guilt over everything under the sun. I used to feel guilty that I wasn’t happy with my perfectly normal and stable life. I used to feel guilty that I wasn’t the kind of friend who baked casseroles and offered to watch others’ children. I used to feel guilty that I couldn’t simply accept my body as it was. I used to feel guilty that I knew how important healthy food was, but I couldn’t get myself to commit 100% of the time. I used to feel guilty that I wasn’t the perfect wife or mom. I used to feel guilty for simply existing sometimes. Helloooo self-hatred.
And it’s all crap. There is not a single person in this world who is better than me or more perfect than me. And I don’t expect all of the rest of you to ever feel guilt. You do things or you don’t. They’re your choices but you shouldn’t feel guilt over them. It helps no one, and it certainly doesn’t help you make better choices. So quit with it. It’s wasted energy.
2. Know that you are worthy.
You may meet me and decide that I act incredibly entitled. I have big dreams and I’m completely unapologetic about them. Because as it turns out, I am no less deserving of greatness than the next person. And knowing that I am worthy means that it’s okay to have huge goals. Why? Because there are people all over the world living big lives! Why not me? Right?! And if it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t. But it’s not because I don’t deserve to live the life of my dreams. It’ll mostly likely be because my vision changed along the way. And that’s OKAY. But to shrink inside of yourself and live quietly simply because you think it’s all you deserve is not. That’s just not okay. You are capable of incredible things. And the first step to achieving those things is to know and accept that you deserve them. You are worthy.
3. Understand that there is no one correct way to nourish your body.
This goes for food, fitness, or even mental nourishment. There are experts everywhere trying to help you become your healthiest self, and you don’t have to listen to all of them. Think of them as guides who are helping you find the correct path for yourself. You know your own body – listen to it. If one expert’s advice doesn’t feel like the right fit, move on to the next. Don’t waste your time being overwhelmed because you can’t please them all. I know that feeling well, and it’s paralyzing. But the moment I realized that they are there to educate me, not regulate me, I felt a sense of freedom.
I learn more about my mind and body every day, and slowly, I’ve become my own best expert. I needed all of those other people to get me here, but now I’m learning to trust my own instincts. I’m forever grateful for their tips and guidance, because I felt so lost when I started. But when you reach the point where you are trying to please everyone but yourself, it’s time to step back and re-evaluate how the implementation of their advice makes you feel. And nourish that.
4. You are in control of your life.
This one is scary, because I think sometimes we like to believe that things will simply work out in our favor and we don’t have to take life by the reigns. And yes, in most cases, things will turn out fine and life will be okay. But do you want an okay life or an extraordinary one? If it’s the latter, then you can’t wait for life to happen to you. You just can’t.
It’s a delicate balance in my opinion because on the one hand, if you have no patience and you try to force things, you’ll end up driving yourself nuts. But on the other, if you sit back and watch life pass you by, then you’ll never reach your full potential. So know that some things are beyond your control, and start handling the rest. Understand that your circumstances can catapult you into even greater things, and know that your present does not have to be your future. I felt like a victim for too long, and now I look back and understand that everything I went through created this life I have today. So how could I ever give any of that up? I can’t! And I wouldn’t want to.
I refuse to let life happen to me, and I’m hoping you’ll do the same.
And that’s it. It sounds simple, and it can be. But you have to be committed to reinforcing the following thoughts in your mind consistently.
I should not feel guilty over anything. Ever. I am worthy and deserving of any big dream I might have. Without exception. There is no perfect way to nourish myself. I will learn to trust my own body and mind over time. And most importantly, I am in control of this life. No one else. Me. My time on Earth is finite, and it’s up to me to make my goals come true.
Because I know that these things are often easier said than done, I’m here to help. It’s the reason I’ll soon be offering coaching services. Together, I know we can change your mindset. You are worth it!
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